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The Invisible Load No One Sees

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How I’m reducing stress & learning to regulate my emotions

If you’re a mom, you already know about the invisible load… the one no one else sees but you feel in your bones every single day.

It’s the mental checklist running nonstop in the back of your mind:
Snacks packed? Did I switch the laundry? Why is the dog limping? Who’s out of socks? Don’t forget to RSVP. Add yogurt to the grocery list. Oh, and be patient, be present, be calm…

It’s the weight of everyone else’s needs stacking on top of your own, until suddenly you realize… you haven’t taken a full breath all day.

For a long time, I thought stress was just “part of the job” and emotional overwhelm was normal. I told myself to just push through, but pushing didn’t make me stronger. It made me exhausted, anxious, reactive, and stuck in a cycle I hated.

The truth?
I wasn’t okay.
And that invisible load was crushing me.

What Finally Changed

One night, after snapping at my kids again, I sat on the edge of my bed and realized something had to shift. Not in a “burn everything down and start over” way… but in a small, steady “I can’t keep white-knuckling my life” way.

So I started making changes: simple, doable shifts that began rewiring how I show up, how I think, and how I care for myself.

Here’s what has truly helped lower my stress and regulate my emotions:

1. I Slowed My Mornings Down

No more waking up in chaos.
Now I start with coffee, quiet, and intention.
A few pages of prayer or Scripture.
Coffee + breathing.
Just being before I rush into doing.

That alone shifted the tone of my whole day.

2. I Nourish My Body (So My Brain Can Function)

This one surprised me.

I learned that stress is harder to manage when your nervous system is running on fumes.
That’s when I started supporting my body with calm-supporting tools:
✔️ Collagen + CBG in my morning drink
✔️ Daily cannabinoids for emotional balance
✔️ Functional mushrooms for focus + resilience
✔️ Enough water + electrolytes so my system isn’t running dry

The difference in my mood and patience was almost immediate.
A nourished body produces a calmer, more regulated mind.

3. I Pay Attention to My Triggers Instead of Hiding From Them

Instead of stuffing emotions down, I started noticing them.

When I feel my chest tighten or my fuse shortening, I pause.
I breathe.
I ask: What’s really going on? What do I need right now?

It sounds simple, but this one practice has saved me from so many emotional spirals.

4. I Stopped Carrying It All Alone

I’m learning to ask for help.
I’m delegating.
I’m telling my family what I need instead of assuming they should already know.

And most shockingly?
They actually want to help.
I just needed to let them.

5. I Built Tiny Moments of Comfort Into My Day

I used to think self-care meant spa days.
Nope.
Self-care is the small things that tell your nervous system, you’re safe.

A walk outside.
Ten minutes with my LumeBox.
Sitting in the car before going inside.
Saying “no” without apologizing.

Little things add up to big emotional shifts.

I’m Not Perfect Now, But I’m Present

The invisible load hasn’t disappeared.
But now? It doesn’t crush me.

I’m more regulated, more patient, more aware, and more anchored in who I want to be.

If you’re carrying more than anyone knows, please hear me:
You don’t have to stay overwhelmed.
Small steps can change everything.
And you’re allowed to take them.

You deserve to breathe again.
You deserve to feel like you again.

And if you ever need support, tools, or a starting point, I’m right here.

I Yelled Today. Then I Cried. Then I Hugged Them Tighter.

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Mom confession:
I yelled today.
Then I cried.
Then I hugged them tighter.

It wasn’t the moment I wanted.
It wasn’t the version of me I’m proud of.
But it was real.

Motherhood has a way of holding both the most beautiful and the most overwhelming moments in the exact same day. Sometimes the same hour.

I lost my patience over something small—maybe it was the constant noise, the spilled juice, the backtalk, the mess I cleaned for the fifth time. But it wasn’t just that moment. It was the mental load I’d been carrying all day. All week. Maybe longer.

And once again, I found myself in that place of frustration…
where the tears come right after the yelling.
The guilt creeps in fast.
The shame whispers, “You should be better at this.”

But here’s what I’m reminding myself of:

We are human.
We are growing.
And our kids are learning through our imperfections, not in spite of them.

So I apologized.
I hugged them.
I started over.

And then, I took a moment for me.

Because I’ve learned that when I don’t pour into myself, I pour out stress.

I’ve had to get really honest about how I’m supporting my nervous system. And not just with bubble baths or locking myself in the bathroom for five minutes (although let’s be honest… I’ve done that too 🙃).

I’ve started building in daily rhythms that help me feel more grounded—especially on the hard days. Things like:

  • Taking my CBD regularly to support a calm mood
  • Sipping adaptogenic mushroom tea to help manage stress
  • Saying yes to hydration and no to perfection
  • Getting outside, even if it’s just for 10 minutes
  • Checking in with my breath before I check my phone

These small things don’t erase the chaos. But they help me show up better in it.
And on the days I still lose my cool?
I come back to grace. Again and again.

If you’ve ever had a moment like mine—where you yelled, then cried, then hugged tighter—I see you. You’re not alone.

You’re not failing.
You’re just a mom who cares deeply.
And caring is exhausting sometimes.

Give yourself a little more compassion today.
And if you’re looking for natural ways to support your stress and show up with more calm and clarity—I’d love to share what’s helped me. 💛

P.S. Want to peek at the simple wellness tools that keep me steady on the wobbly days? I’d love to see you over in my wellness community! https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1698BmZ41k/

From Survival Mode to True Calm: My Journey with Nano Jellies

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For the longest time, I didn’t realize how much of my life I was spending in a constant state of fight or flight. I was always anxious, overwhelmed, and totally exhausted—but I thought that was just how life was supposed to feel with small children. I had normalized the chaos in my body and mind, brushing off the symptoms because they were so consistent that they felt normal.

Every little thing set me off—tight deadlines, noisy kids, unexpected plans, even just the overwhelm of a busy to-do list. My heart would race, my thoughts would spiral, and my body felt tense all the time. I was stuck on high alert, living in survival mode without even realizing it.

Then something shifted.

I discovered nano jellies—and while I didn’t expect a huge change at first, I can now confidently say that they were a complete game-changer for my nervous system. These tiny but mighty wellness tools helped me regulate in a way I didn’t even know I needed. For the first time in a long time, my mind felt clear. My anxious thoughts quieted. My body relaxed. I wasn’t just coping anymore—I was healing.

It was like my whole system finally exhaled.

Now, I feel like I can respond to life instead of constantly reacting to it. I’m not as quick to snap, spiral, or shut down. There’s a new sense of calm and control that’s become my new normal, and it’s something I never want to live without again. It’s not about being stress-free (because, let’s be honest, life is still life), but about having tools that support my body and mind so I can navigate the hard moments with more grace and peace.

If you’ve been living in that anxious, go-go-go state too—please know that it doesn’t have to be that way. There is a better way to feel. You can feel safe in your body again. You can find your calm. And I would love to share more with you if you’re curious.

You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s talk. ❤️

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