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The Invisible Load No One Sees

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How I’m reducing stress & learning to regulate my emotions

If you’re a mom, you already know about the invisible load… the one no one else sees but you feel in your bones every single day.

It’s the mental checklist running nonstop in the back of your mind:
Snacks packed? Did I switch the laundry? Why is the dog limping? Who’s out of socks? Don’t forget to RSVP. Add yogurt to the grocery list. Oh, and be patient, be present, be calm…

It’s the weight of everyone else’s needs stacking on top of your own, until suddenly you realize… you haven’t taken a full breath all day.

For a long time, I thought stress was just “part of the job” and emotional overwhelm was normal. I told myself to just push through, but pushing didn’t make me stronger. It made me exhausted, anxious, reactive, and stuck in a cycle I hated.

The truth?
I wasn’t okay.
And that invisible load was crushing me.

What Finally Changed

One night, after snapping at my kids again, I sat on the edge of my bed and realized something had to shift. Not in a “burn everything down and start over” way… but in a small, steady “I can’t keep white-knuckling my life” way.

So I started making changes: simple, doable shifts that began rewiring how I show up, how I think, and how I care for myself.

Here’s what has truly helped lower my stress and regulate my emotions:

1. I Slowed My Mornings Down

No more waking up in chaos.
Now I start with coffee, quiet, and intention.
A few pages of prayer or Scripture.
Coffee + breathing.
Just being before I rush into doing.

That alone shifted the tone of my whole day.

2. I Nourish My Body (So My Brain Can Function)

This one surprised me.

I learned that stress is harder to manage when your nervous system is running on fumes.
That’s when I started supporting my body with calm-supporting tools:
✔️ Collagen + CBG in my morning drink
✔️ Daily cannabinoids for emotional balance
✔️ Functional mushrooms for focus + resilience
✔️ Enough water + electrolytes so my system isn’t running dry

The difference in my mood and patience was almost immediate.
A nourished body produces a calmer, more regulated mind.

3. I Pay Attention to My Triggers Instead of Hiding From Them

Instead of stuffing emotions down, I started noticing them.

When I feel my chest tighten or my fuse shortening, I pause.
I breathe.
I ask: What’s really going on? What do I need right now?

It sounds simple, but this one practice has saved me from so many emotional spirals.

4. I Stopped Carrying It All Alone

I’m learning to ask for help.
I’m delegating.
I’m telling my family what I need instead of assuming they should already know.

And most shockingly?
They actually want to help.
I just needed to let them.

5. I Built Tiny Moments of Comfort Into My Day

I used to think self-care meant spa days.
Nope.
Self-care is the small things that tell your nervous system, you’re safe.

A walk outside.
Ten minutes with my LumeBox.
Sitting in the car before going inside.
Saying “no” without apologizing.

Little things add up to big emotional shifts.

I’m Not Perfect Now, But I’m Present

The invisible load hasn’t disappeared.
But now? It doesn’t crush me.

I’m more regulated, more patient, more aware, and more anchored in who I want to be.

If you’re carrying more than anyone knows, please hear me:
You don’t have to stay overwhelmed.
Small steps can change everything.
And you’re allowed to take them.

You deserve to breathe again.
You deserve to feel like you again.

And if you ever need support, tools, or a starting point, I’m right here.

My Go-To Tools for Winding Down at Night Naturally

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Because we deserve to feel peace, not pressure, at the end of the day.

There was a time when my nights looked a lot like this:
I’d finally collapse into bed, physically drained, but somehow, my brain would go into overdrive. I’d be running through my to-do list, rethinking things I said (or didn’t say), and mentally prepping for tomorrow before today had even ended.

Even though I was exhausted, true rest felt impossible.

Sound familiar?

Whether you’re a mom, a multitasker, or just someone trying to keep up with life, you know that the way we end our day matters. And over time, I realized that I couldn’t keep hoping for rest. I had to create it.

That’s when I started building a nighttime routine with natural tools that truly support my body and mind. These aren’t complicated or expensive. They’re small, intentional habits that help signal to my nervous system: “You’re safe. You can slow down now.”

So if you’re looking to feel more peace and less panic in the evenings, here are my tried-and-true tools:

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🌿 1. Hemp (not pot) to Calm the Chaos

This one is non-negotiable for me now. A clean, full-spectrum CBD, THC, or CBG jelly in the evening has been a game-changer for my nervous system. It helps reduce that mental spiral so I can actually feel present and peaceful, whether I’m having quiet time alone or unwinding with my partner.

There are so many options out there, but not all CBD is created equal. I only use Green Compass because I trust their sourcing, their transparency, and the way their products actually work.

🧘🏼‍♀️ 2. Gentle Movement or Breathwork

If I’ve had a high-stress day (and let’s be real, most days qualify), I take five minutes to stretch on the floor or do some box breathing. Sometimes I just lie with my legs up the wall and breathe deeply. It’s simple, but it signals to my body: “You’re not in fight or flight anymore.”

You don’t have to be a yogi to do this. Just dim the lights, roll out a mat or towel, and move in a way that feels good.

📱 3. No Screens After 9 PM

This one’s tough, especially when the kids are finally asleep and you just want to scroll. But I’ve noticed a huge difference in my ability to fall asleep when I cut off blue light exposure and social media noise at least an hour before bed.

Instead, I try to do something that helps my brain unplug rather than rev up again.

🍵 4. Magnesium-Rich Tea or Mocktail

I love making a cozy magnesium mocktail or sipping herbal tea with ingredients like chamomile, passionflower, or lemon balm. Not only is it soothing, but magnesium helps relax your muscles and regulate the stress hormone cortisol.

It’s like a warm, gentle “exhale” in a cup.

📖 5. A Few Pages of a Book

Reading (something light or inspiring!) helps me shift out of the busy world in my brain and into a slower rhythm. Just a few pages can create the perfect transition between wakefulness and rest. Bonus: It makes my dreams way more interesting than if I had just scrolled reels before bed 😆

I’m not saying every night is perfect. Some nights still involve toddler wakeups, late-night dishes, or staying up too late talking with my husband. But having this toolbox has absolutely changed the way I experience my evenings.

I don’t just collapse into bed anymore… I wind down intentionally.
And I fall asleep with more peace, fewer spirals, and a body that knows it’s safe to rest.

If you’re stuck in the cycle of going to bed exhausted but wired, try adding just one of these tools into your routine tonight. Then build from there.

You deserve a nighttime routine that supports you.

Tell me – what helps you wind down naturally? I’d love to add your ideas to my list!

Want to try the CBD that’s helped me the most? I’m always happy to share what’s worked for me and help you find what fits your needs. Just send me a message or check out this link for info + a free consult -> free consult here.

What Moms Really Want for Mother’s Day (Hint: It’s Not a Mug)

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There’s a running joke among moms that every Mother’s Day gift is either a mug that says “Best Mom Ever” or a candle with a generic scent and a tag someone else filled out. And while we appreciate the sentiment (and yes, we are the best moms ever), most of us crave something much deeper:

Rest. Relaxation. And a moment to ourselves.

Let’s be honest — motherhood is the most beautiful, exhausting, emotionally-charged job on the planet. Whether you’re a mom of littles who hasn’t had an uninterrupted night’s sleep in years, or a seasoned mama still doing all the things for everyone around her, one universal truth stands: we are tired.

This year, instead of flowers that wilt or a brunch reservation that still requires wrangling toddlers, give the moms (and mothers of your children) in your life what they really want: a reason to exhale.

Introducing: The Mother’s Day Relaxation Bundle

Available now through May 11th (or while supplies last)

This limited-edition bundle is like a warm hug, a deep breath, and a “go take a nap” — all wrapped into one beautifully curated gift. It’s thoughtfully designed to support rest, relaxation, and radiant health from the inside out.

Here’s what’s inside:

🍫 3 Weeks of Chocolate Collagen

Yes, chocolate. This delicious, dairy-free collagen isn’t just a treat — it’s a functional beauty and wellness supplement designed to support skin, hair, joints, and gut health. Every mom deserves to glow from the inside out.

🌿 Unwind Jellies

Think of these as stress relief in a gummy. Infused with clean hemp and calming botanicals, Unwind Jellies help ease tension, support mood balance, and encourage those “I can breathe again” moments we all crave after a long day.

🌙 Sleep Jellies

Because counting sheep just isn’t cutting it. These jellies are packed with clean CBN to help you fall asleep faster, stay asleep longer, and wake up feeling like a human (not a zombie).

😴 A Silky Sleep Mask

Light-blocking, ultra-soft, and surprisingly luxurious. It’s the finishing touch to create a peaceful bedtime routine that actually works — because let’s face it, most moms haven’t bought anything for themselves in months.

💰 And the Best Part?

It’s almost HALF OFF retail price and ships free — so you can gift generously without the guilt.

Whether you’re shopping for your mom, your sister, your spouse, or yourself (because, let’s be real, you deserve this), this bundle is the perfect way to say:

“You give so much. This is just for you.”

🌸 Don’t Wait

This bundle is only available through May 11th or while supplies last — and last year’s Mother’s Day specials sold out fast.

Let this be the year we stop asking moms what they want and start giving them what they actually need:
Better sleep. Less stress. And a little bit of chocolate.

👉 Grab the Mother’s Day Relaxation Bundle now prefilled shopping cart w/ $10 off for new clients!

I Yelled Today. Then I Cried. Then I Hugged Them Tighter.

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Mom confession:
I yelled today.
Then I cried.
Then I hugged them tighter.

It wasn’t the moment I wanted.
It wasn’t the version of me I’m proud of.
But it was real.

Motherhood has a way of holding both the most beautiful and the most overwhelming moments in the exact same day. Sometimes the same hour.

I lost my patience over something small—maybe it was the constant noise, the spilled juice, the backtalk, the mess I cleaned for the fifth time. But it wasn’t just that moment. It was the mental load I’d been carrying all day. All week. Maybe longer.

And once again, I found myself in that place of frustration…
where the tears come right after the yelling.
The guilt creeps in fast.
The shame whispers, “You should be better at this.”

But here’s what I’m reminding myself of:

We are human.
We are growing.
And our kids are learning through our imperfections, not in spite of them.

So I apologized.
I hugged them.
I started over.

And then, I took a moment for me.

Because I’ve learned that when I don’t pour into myself, I pour out stress.

I’ve had to get really honest about how I’m supporting my nervous system. And not just with bubble baths or locking myself in the bathroom for five minutes (although let’s be honest… I’ve done that too 🙃).

I’ve started building in daily rhythms that help me feel more grounded—especially on the hard days. Things like:

  • Taking my CBD regularly to support a calm mood
  • Sipping adaptogenic mushroom tea to help manage stress
  • Saying yes to hydration and no to perfection
  • Getting outside, even if it’s just for 10 minutes
  • Checking in with my breath before I check my phone

These small things don’t erase the chaos. But they help me show up better in it.
And on the days I still lose my cool?
I come back to grace. Again and again.

If you’ve ever had a moment like mine—where you yelled, then cried, then hugged tighter—I see you. You’re not alone.

You’re not failing.
You’re just a mom who cares deeply.
And caring is exhausting sometimes.

Give yourself a little more compassion today.
And if you’re looking for natural ways to support your stress and show up with more calm and clarity—I’d love to share what’s helped me. 💛

P.S. Want to peek at the simple wellness tools that keep me steady on the wobbly days? I’d love to see you over in my wellness community! https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1698BmZ41k/

Help, I have mom brain!

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Let’s talk about focus. My fellow mama friends know all about “pregnancy brain” which then turns into “mom brain”. We laugh and joke about it. But it can actually be pretty detrimental sometimes. When you can’t focus on anything and your brain is constantly jumping all over the place, you feel like you’re forgetting stuff all the time. It’s a lot.

But I know it’s not just moms who struggle with focus.

In a world buzzing with distractions, staying focused has become an increasingly daunting task for many of us. Whether it’s the incessant pings of notifications, the allure of social media, or simply the chaos of our own thoughts, maintaining concentration seems like an uphill battle. I, too, have wrestled with this struggle for years, feeling frustrated by my inability to stay on track and achieve my goals. However, amidst the chaos, I’ve discovered a solution that has transformed my ability to concentrate and reclaim my productivity.

The journey to finding this solution was not an easy one. Like many others, I found myself succumbing to the allure of multitasking, believing that I could juggle multiple tasks simultaneously and somehow emerge unscathed. Yet, as deadlines loomed and projects piled up, I realized that my fragmented attention was hindering rather than helping me. Procrastination became my constant companion, and the vicious cycle of distraction and guilt seemed never-ending.

It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom, feeling overwhelmed by the weight of uncompleted tasks, that I knew something had to change. Determined to regain control of my focus, I embarked on a quest for solutions. I tried countless productivity hacks, which meant I spent way too much time scrolling Pinterest for answers, but nothing seemed to stick. Frustration threatened to engulf me as I despaired of ever finding a way out of the fog of distraction.

Yet, amidst the chaos, a ray of hope emerged. Through introspection and experimentation, I stumbled upon a couple of things that resonated with me in a profound way. They weren’t revolutionary techniques or a fancy new apps; rather, they were simple yet powerful additions to my daily routine: mindfulness and high quality, clean, organic, third party tested, safe C B D.

Now, I’m inspired to help others experience anything similar to what I have as it has changed my life. I’ve been sharing more information over in my wellness community – https://www.facebook.com/groups/raisingclean/ and I created this quiz to be able to help others get the perfect products to help them feel their absolute best – https://forms.gle/3H992tY6rWvHPVLA7

You don’t have to walk through life distracted and stressed. I got you!